Our Identity is our masterpiece!

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Disclaimer : I am not an aspiring shrink. I might be a few years too late for that attempt

Hi my readers! ( yes, all 4 of you out there! :-) )

I often think about why people suffer Identity Crisis. All of us have or do face it on and off. The key, I feel, is in how we answer just one question. A very important question;

How do I describe myself ?

It might be fruitful to introspect and find out what our answer to that question has been. More importantly, if we have answered it ourselves. Is it our own authentic answer?

when someone asks us to describe ourselves, the first few things that pop into our head might be:

1. What job do we do?
2. How good or bad we are at it?
3. What belief do we relate to - religious, political or others
4. What is our role?
5. What is our social status?
6. How we look?
and so on.

But think about who has actually answered these questions. We rely on our boss to tell us what role we play and how good or bad we are at it. We rely on our family and friends to make us feel content or otherwise about our social and economic status. Our boss, Our mom, Our dad, Our friends etc. decide "who we are ". It is most certainly not us.

These are labels that we have  accepted as our identity and are trying our best to live up to.
If the goalpost changes, our crisis begins and your confidence melts away like sea ice in arctic summer and we have no control over it.

Imagine a situation when you pride yourself to be in a job that is now getting replaced by Automation. Or, if you related to a certain political idol so much so that it was a part of your identity and is now replaced or evolved and you don't relate to the views, anymore. Or, if your parents were so proud of your social status and now there are a few others in the family who are doing better in terms of earning than you.

Should you cease to exist? Oh wait, it wont be so dramatic. But you will definitely face an identity crisis.

The only way to answer the big question - 'Who am I ?' is by knowing what is our core quality, our deepest truth..the Infinite quality that we decide for ourselves.  My personal one is "creator". This is my sole truth and will get me through any of the other capped material aspects of my life - like job, role, fame or whatever it is I am seeking. They don't define me.

Only your core quality defines you!

If Einstein got affected by Tesla's views of him and vice versa, we might not have seen the great things that they went on to do.

If Gandhi Ji and Mr. Ambedkar let each other's views shake their own, imagine the plight of India in today's time.

We know plenty of actors who have been told that they aren't good looking enough for the entertainment industry.

Guess what, we could not have seen all of these things, if their inventors were not defiant enough to fight the world with their conviction :  Light Bulb, Coffee, Aeroplanes, Taxi system, personal computer.. even an umbrella.

Like Mary Kay Ash said " you can go as far as your mind lets you"

Let's tap the power of our conviction coz there is noone else who will do it for us!

PS: This is a subject that's very close to me. Wait for the sequel where we delve deeper.