Sometimes all of us need some help to break out of the loops in life.  A few years ago, I noticed a strange change in myself. There was a constant feeling of unease..I felt like danger looming... a catastrophe going to happen. I tried hard to track down the reasons, but my mind was not giving me answers. I realized there is no apparent reason to feel this way if I can't point to it, right away. I thought to myself, "After all, there are scores of people in real situations at hand, and they don't worry! Why do I?" It was a valid point, and my logical self wanted to believe it badly but somehow I wasn't convinced. Soon, I started showing physical symptoms like feeling shortness of breath and general hot flashes. This is when I paused and thought to myself - "This can't be normal". I do realize now that when my mind space was such, I would also have been defensive in my demeanor in public. I tried to shoot back counters to anyone who wanted to judge me ...

Pic source : pixabay  Today is Mother's day. The day when our children cluelessly wish us "Happy mothers day". It is a special day when we acknowledge the hard work that goes into being a mom.  A roles of a mother has so much dichotomy. We wear many faces but have to make sure that the most pleasant face is the one showing. While you are trying to manage all your ten roles, the most important is the one that makes sure your kids see you as a juggler supermom, who means well and not as a scary monster, who is out to get them. As a mother and in general, why do we feel the need to juggle so many roles? Simply because it's mandatory to be perfect and better than the others.  Thats what they said. And they still say so much. If you have a career, they say you are too busy for you kids. If you are a stay at home-mom,  they say you can do more. And if you do both well, and get close to their "Perfect". They'd simply change the goalpost If you cook well, they s...

Have you ever read about the cognitive behavioral concepts? These concepts are formed around understanding human cognitive distortions, unhelpful behaviors and emotional regulations that we form through our lives. It is but obvious, that every human being goes through many experiences through out their life and while going through them they learn about themselves and form beliefs about their own capabilities. Every belief that a person has of  him/her self is based on the past experiences. For example, if I have tried to play a sport a few times and have not been able to do well and in-turn have had bad experiences of facing associated humiliation, I would think a thousand times before I can try another sport. This is because I have formed an unhealthy opinion that I am not good at sports. On the other extreme, if I have baked a cake and everyone has loved it, I will have high level of confidence to try baking cake or cookies or anything else that I think needs simi...

Women : We are same, we are unique, we are Awesome! Ever wondered, why we need L'Oreal to tell us that "we are worth it"? In the year 1973 this phrase was launched in an ad and it caught on instantly as it resonated with the women then. It definitely must have been an excellent marketing campaign launched about 40 plus years ago. While, it tapped an untapped marketplace within the women community and increased business multi-fold, it gave a much needed boost to more women to focus on self care and beauty. It also gave women a sense of empowerment and spoke from their point of view at a time when it was a new and shiny concept. This somewhat still seems pertinent but we must acknowledge that the world for a woman has changed drastically and still is constantly evolving. Today's women are characteristically diverse. Thousand years of patriarchy has affected the lives of women in varying magnitudes and this has caused us to also have varying degrees of self...