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A roles of a mother has so much dichotomy. We wear many faces but have to make sure that the most pleasant face is the one showing. While you are trying to manage all your ten roles, the most important is the one that makes sure your kids see you as a juggler supermom, who means well and not as a scary monster, who is out to get them.
As a mother and in general, why do we feel the need to juggle so many roles?
Simply because it's mandatory to be perfect and better than the others. Thats what they said. And they still say so much.
If you have a career, they say you are too busy for you kids. If you are a stay at home-mom, they say you can do more. And if you do both well, and get close to their "Perfect". They'd simply change the goalpost
If you cook well, they say you have too much time at hand. If you can't cook, they assume you cant handle your home
If you send your kids to extra classes, they say you cant do it yourself, if you do it yourself they say you are overconfident
But, who are they? You may think. I think, "THEY" are "US".. all of us. We are all a part of it and I think we don't even know it. How does one correct a problem, when we don't know where it exists. All we can do is control whats in our control and that is; how do we feel about motherhood?
Motherhood has many challenges but having our kids love us more for pushing them, for scolding them, for correcting them, is the biggest of them all. Shedding the guilt for not being perfect, is magical.
Teach them never to hurt you with their words. They will figure out better ways to get their point through. You'd be doing the biggest favour to their future partners
Be real ; so they don't learn to live life pretending to be someone else
Explain the reason for everything and rationalise your rules. You don’t want them to grow up to be "yes-men / yes-women"
Give respect and take respect. What you do to them, will come right back at you sooner or later
Be honest and protect their trust in you
Have a guilt free day! Maybe make an honest attempt to stretch it to last a bit longer than today and if possible, make it go on as long as you exist.
Awesome pinka
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